The
TIMES OF refreshing
Chosen One Outreach Ministries Publisher Shearon Roach www.timeofrefreshing.com Issue No. 3 Date 01/07/03
TORN
BETWEEN TWO LOVERS Mat 6:24 No man can serve two masters: for either he will
hate the one, (this text is not only for our spiritual relationship, it can truly work in our personal
relationships) A man may do some service to two masters, but he can devote
himself to the service of no more than one. God requires the whole
heart, and will not share it with the world. When two masters oppose
each other, no man can serve both. He, who holds to the world and loves
it, must despise God; he, who loves God, must give up the friendship of
the world. And the same rule holds true for
relationships, whether married or dating. If you have made a commitment
to someone, you are expected to fulfill that vow. You are expected to love the one you made the commitment
to, not love the one you are with, by making this commitment you
are serving God When you get married you become one. And
that marriage (love) is honored by God. For better or worse, in sickness
and health, ‘til death do you part.
Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but
whoremongers and adulterers God will judge. (Heb 13:4) Yes, you will be judge, whether or not you are married, you will
be judged. Let’s talk about being torn between two lovers in a
relationship. You are in a relationship; you have been in it for
a while, and you have become very comfortable with each other, too
comfortable. Things have become dull, no excitement anymore, or things
may not be going the way you thought they would.
So your mind begins to wonder.
And along comes and old friend.
Someone you once had a thing for.
Someone who push all the right buttons, someone who made you
forget you even had kids at home, someone who made you forget you had to
go to work the next day. Your
mind begins to wonder. Do
you still have it? Can he
still make you feel the way he used to?
So you say why not give him a call, nothing wrong with a phone
call. The phone call leads
to lunch, nothing wrong with a little lunch, after all you do have to
eat don’t you? You start to talk about old times, nothing wrong with
talking about old times. Lunch
leads to a drink after work, nothing wrong with a little drink, after
all you are out in public (way out).
You continue to reminisce about old times, nothing wrong with
that, after all it’s fun to relive the past. Then he buys you a little
gift to remember him by, nothing wrong with a little gift, after all
it’s just a little gift, or is it?
What level of Hell do you plan to take this relationship to? If nothing was wrong with all of what you have done, why
haven’t you told your husband, or your fiancé? Why do you feel guilty
when you go home? You said nothing was wrong with it. Right? If you
truly respected and loved the person that you are committed to you would
have shared all of what happened from the beginning. Right? You say I don’t understand.
You say old love was rekindled? No, old love wasn’t
rekindled, old lust was. If
you say that you are still in love with the former person, then you need
to examine the relationship you are in now.
You be in love with both of them. You are thinking with the wrong thing. Stop thinking with your
heart. Your mind and your heart are not fully committed to the Lord if
you feel you have to continue with these relationships. You can’t get
him out of your system, God can. Your heart is telling you that there is nothing wrong with
what you are feeling, it’s ok. Don’t
listen to your heart. Says
who? Says the word of God. The
heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can
know it? (Jer
17:9) For
out of the heart come evil thoughts, the taking of life, broken faith
between the married, You can’t please God and Satan at the same time.
Serving God would be surrendering what you feel to
the Lord and asking Him to help you resist what you are feeling.
Submit
yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from
you. (James 4:7)
Serving God
would be to love Him with all of your heart, soul and mind, and yield
not to temptation. Serving Satan would be to continue to sneak around
thinking that no one will ever know or be hurt. Continuing to allow him to tempt you, to make you think
that as long as you ask for forgiveness each time, it’s ok. Oh my, has Satan got you fooled. That’s not true
repentance. I don’t know
what he is telling you to make you think that you can continue, and not
pay the price. But I do know what God says about it. Your slipping into
darkness will lead to death. Jam
1:13-15 Let no man say when he is tempted, I am tempted of God: for God
cannot be tempted with evil, Don’t
think that what you are going through is only happening to
you, don’t think that you can’t get out of it. Because even in the
midst of your temptation, God still has you on His mind.
He has made a way for you to escape; of course you have to want
to escape. There hath no temptation taken you but such as is
common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be
tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a
way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it. (1Co
10:13) You
cannot serve two masters: You
will either hate one, SO
WHAT’S IT GOING TO BE? WHO
ARE YOU GOING TO HATE? WHO ARE YOU GOING TO LOVE?
CAN TWO REALLY PLAY THAT GAME? While watching the movie Two Can Play That Game, I was
amazed at what some women put up with to keep a man.
Yes, I hear you say it was only a movie, but you and I both know
that women carry on like that. What
you saw wasn’t made up; it was real life.
Ladies we have got to do better about taking care of ourselves.
I saw four beautiful, successful ladies playing games with their
lives to keep a man. It was
sad watching three of these ladies, spend their hard earned money and
their time with men who truly didn’t deserve them, yet they wanted
them. Why? Well I heard one
of them say it was because “My baby can lay pipe” Sorry ladies, I
have to say it, is that all you want out of a relationship is a pipe
layer? Are you saying to me that God created you to simply be a retainer
for pipe? (that’s as nice as I can say it). I don’t think so.
Life goes on after the pipe is laid.
The pipe won’t pay the bills or keep a roof over your head. It may feel good at the moment, but what happens when
it’s over? Life goes on….. I watch these ladies buy clothes for the men, give one man a total
makeover, and I men total makeover, allow them to move in with them and
the men had no jobs! Then
once they move in, they don’t want to make any commitments because they
have been hurt before. So
why are you upset, didn’t you let them move in? Well why did you let
them move in? You got it,
because “Baby can lay pipe”. DEAD
WEIGHT! Ladies you deserve better than this. Snap out of this! Stop
allowing men or anyone to treat you this way. They only do this because
we allow them to. Stop being afraid of being alone. Start learning to be happy with yourself first, and then
you won’t be afraid to walk away from a bad relationship.
But if you never learn the pleasure of your own company, and to
stand on your own two feet, you will fall for anything that smiles at
you, and you will never know what true happiness is.
Everything that is good to you is not good for you. And ladies, if you have been blessed to have a wonderful man in
your life and he makes a mistake, FORGIVE HIM when
he apologizes. Don’t’
do what one lady did by playing games. While you are trying to make him
jealous, someone else is moving in.
Why waste all that time playing a game that you may lose to
someone else. And further more ladies, remember, you can’t do what the
guys do and still be called a lady.
Two can’t play that game. Now let’s talk about the beauty of the movie:
Did you notice the beautiful relationships the women had with
each other? No matter what
was going on in their personal lives they were there for each other.
When they talked about each other and their men, they did it out
in the open, not behind each other’s back.
And when they thought one of their friends was being embarrassed
in public by her man, they had her back. Now that’s what I am talking
about. We need to see more of that in our sisterhood.
We need more bonding together, and a better support system for
each other. Stop putting
each other’s business in the street.
When one of us is down, the other should be there for comfort and
support. Not running and telling about her finances, her men, or
whatever the problem is. True friends are rare, learn to
appreciate them, NOW TWO CAN PLAY THIS GAME!
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