This is not a word for everyone, but it is specifically for women, although it could apply to men. It was submitted by one of my subscribers.

Blessings,
Pats

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Infidelity, adultery, betrayal. All three of those words are reality to hundreds of women, Christian women. Women who keep it to themselves protecting their husbands and protecting what others perceive their lives to be.

There are all kinds of support groups for couples, men with addictions to all forms of lust be it pornography or prostitutes. Sometimes it helps. The wives who have suffered betrayal need to realize they are not unique. There are many of us out there who understand. As Solomon put it so well in:

 Ecclesiastes 1:9 The thing that has been--it is what will be again, and that which has been done is that which will be done again; and there is nothing new under the sun. God is not shocked or surprised.

So why do we feel so all alone? We don't believe this could happen to us? I am sure all the wives be it women of the world or Christian have thought the same thing when their husband was caught in adultery.

I am not trying to be one sided, I know there are women who hurt their husbands as well but this is from a woman who has felt the pain of betrayal.

Our Lord felt betrayal, our Lord feels our pain. He is with us through it all, He promised to never leave us or forsake us...now that is a promise you can count on. Only He can give us the peace and the blessed assurance we need to get through and we will get through by doing what He instructs us to do. That is by first laying our cares at His feet and then the hardest thing of all... we need to forgive. The burden of betrayal is too big for us to carry it will destroy us. It was designed to destroy us. The hurt we have experienced is enough for us.. we need to forgive so a root of bitterness does not grow and thoughts consume us. We need to rise up out of that pit of destruction that those thoughts bring and do as Paul says in:

Philippians 4:7-9 Guard over your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus. For the rest, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is worthy of reverence and is honorable and seemly, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely and lovable, whatever is kind and winsome and gracious, if there is any virtue and excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think on and weigh and take account of these things [fix your minds on them]. Practice what you have learned and received and heard and seen in me, and model your way of living on it, and the God of peace (of untroubled, undisturbed well-being) will be with you.

This is not easy but it can be done. All things are possible through Christ. Lifting up holy hands even as our hearts are breaking and praising God will bring His comfort.

We are to function as God functions if we belong to Him and that is walking in Love. We can destroy the works of darkness no other way. We cannot come out of that dark valley no other way. We have to let Jesus our Lord take us through and restore us, heal us so we can take our place beside our bridegroom.

He loves and cares about us, He hates to see us in pain and distress. He hates evil done to us. He does not condone it. He will defend us. Through Love.


It's Began Again

It's happened again, I dread and fear The same thing that has happened year by year. If he has told me once, he has told me twice, he has told me all our married life, That never again would he betray me.... his wife.

He's blamed me again and again, it's all my fault for not pleasing him. That lie I began to believe, that is the way the enemy likes to deceive.

It hurts you know when you first find out to find the one you trusted... you now begin to doubt. Everything he tells you that is true you think of ways he may be lying to you.

You close your spirit, you close him out to cover for the searing pain and doubt. Your mind begins to play tricks on you on what your husband plans to do.

When he goes to work you say I wonder if he will cheat today. When he comes home at night and starts a fight over what you cannot comprehend you know it has began again.

You look for ways to shut him out You rage inside, you cry, you pout None of these things will make a change for the dread of the thought it has began again

You look to yourself to figure a way out Instead of to the One who knows what this is all about To trust in the One who knows what to do He knows your pain, He feels what is inside of you.

Give Him permission to come in and restore To heal, redeem,....that is why the cross He bore He can give you peace while the battle rages on Sooner or later that old life will be gone.

The sanctity of marriage will be restored The promises He made will all come forth Ask the Almighty God to intervene He is standing by waiting to come on the scene.

Isaiah 54:4-6
Fear not, for you shall not be ashamed; neither be confounded and depressed, for you shall not be put to shame. For you shall forget the shame of your youth, and you shall not [seriously] remember the reproach of your widowhood any more. For your Maker is your Husband--the Lord of hosts is His name--and the Holy One of Israel is your Redeemer; the God of the whole earth He is called. For the Lord has called you like a woman forsaken, grieved in spirit, and heart sore--even a wife [wooed and won] in youth, when she is [later] refused and scorned, says your God.


Malachi 2:13-16
And this you do with double guilt; you cover the altar of the Lord with tears [shed by your unoffending wives, divorced by you that you might take heathen wives], and with [your own] weeping and crying out because the Lord does not regard your offering any more or accept it with favor at your hand. Yet you ask, Why does He reject it? Because the Lord was witness [to the covenant made at your marriage] between you and the wife of your youth, against whom you have dealt treacherously and to whom you were faithless. Yet she is your companion and the wife of your covenant [made by your marriage vows]. And did not God make [you and your wife] one [flesh]? Did not One make you and preserve your spirit alive? And why [did God make you two] one? Because He sought a godly offspring [from your union]. Therefore take heed to yourselves, and let no one deal treacherously and be faithless to the wife of his youth. For the Lord, the God of Israel, says: I hate divorce and marital separation and him who covers his garment [his wife] with violence. Therefore keep a watch upon your spirit [that it may be controlled by My Spirit], that you deal not treacherously and faithlessly [with your marriage mate].